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Domestic Violence

What is domestic violence?              
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This information describes the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships. In addition, it provides information on how to get help if you are in an unhealthy relationship.

THE LAW
Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence is any violence or threat of violence between two people (regardless of gender) including:

  • Dating relationships

  • Previous or current relationships

  • Parenting teens

  • Couples living together or separately

  • Family members

Under Idaho law 18-918 or 18-903, spousal abuse or dating violence is a crime. With probable cause, law enforcement can make an arrest and submit a report for felony or misdemeanor prosecution.

Criminal Charges
Domestic Violence is a crime against society. The City or County Attorney represents the people of Idaho and with sufficient evidence, will file charges. Victims do not file charges and cannot drop charges.

RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCE
A person who is in a violent relationship often is:

  • Afraid of their partner’s temper.

  • Afraid to break up because their partner has threatened to hurt themselves or others.

  • Constantly apologizing for or defending their partner’s behavior.

  • Afraid to disagree with their partner.

  • Isolated from their family or friends.

  • Embarrassed in front of others because of their partner’s words or actions.

  • Intimidated by their partner and coerced into having sex.

If you are involved in a violent relationship, there are other options:

  • Get help from someone you trust.

  • Go to a counseling center or social worker.

  • Call a crisis hotline.

  • Avoid alcohol or drug use.

  • End the relationship and choose not to see your partner.

Do something before the relationship gets worse and the violence increases.

A person who exhibits violent behavior in a relationship often:

  • Has an explosive temper.

  • Is possessive or jealous of their partner’s time, friends, or family.

  • Constantly criticizes their partner’s thoughts, feelings, or appearance.

  • Pinches, slaps, grabs, shoves, or throws things at their partner.

  • Coerces or intimidates their partner into having sex.

  • Blames their partner for their own anger.

  • Causes their partner to be afraid.

If you are contributing to a violent relationship, there are other options:

  • Get help from someone you trust.

  • Go to a counseling center or a social worker.

  • Call a crisis hotline.

  • Avoid alcohol and drug use.

  • Take responsibility for your actions.

Get help before the violence increases. You might be breaking the law.

In a healthy relationship, each person is entitled to:

  • Have their needs be as important as their partner’s needs.

  • Be free from blame or responsibility for their partner’s behavior or actions.

  • Be able to voice their thoughts, feelings, and opinions.

  • Be free from emotional, sexual, financial, and physical abuse at all times.

  • Change their mind and not feel threatened.

  • Spend time with their friends and family and not feel pressured by their partner’s jealousy.

  • Live without fear and confusion from their partner’s anger.

  • Be treated with respect and never called names.

  • Negotiate conflict and make decisions about the relationship together.

  • Enjoy each other’s dreams.

Advocates for Survivors of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault can assist you by:

  • Assisting with court protection orders.

  • Finding a safe place for you to stay.

  • Making counseling or financial aide referrals.

  • Relating information on the court system.

  • Providing legal referrals.

YOU CAN RECEIVE INFORMATION FROM THE FOLLOWING RESOURCES:

  • Advocates for Survivors of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault 208.788.4191

  • Sun Club Fellowship Hall 208.726.7710

  • Public Health 208.788.4335

24 Hour Hotlines:

  • Advocates for Survivors of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault 208.788.6070 or 888.676.0066

  • Crisis Hotline 208.726.3597

  • Child Protection 208.734.4000

Counseling:

  • The Advocates women’s and children’s support groups at 6:00 pm Tuesdays at the Shelter in Hailey or call regarding individual sessions.

  • Teen Women’s Group at Wood River High School, 208.788.3481

  • PACE, Partner Abuse Education 208.788.5625

Legal:

  • Idaho Legal Aide 208.734.7024

  • Volunteer Lawyer’s 800.221.3295

  • Guardian Ad Litem, support for children 800.732.9351

  • Blaine Co. Prosecuting Attorney 208.788.5545

Shelter:

  • Advocates for Survivors of Domestic Violence can provide long term shelter and emergency food, clothing, and transportation.

  • Services in Spanish.

 

 
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